Gameboy is not just for kids.

       He's a gamer!  He's got game!  The game's afoot! You're in the game!  Put on your game face!  Let the games begin!  The game is up!  Life's a game!   Do you see a theme here?   This week we are talking about playing games. 
        Our society has hundreds of sayings that involve the word "game'  or allude to playing a game but, what does this have to do with making a career transition?   Let's think about it.
       To win at any game you need several attributes including: endurance, stamina, patience, strategy, adaptability, constant learning knew skills and networking.   Webster's New World College Dictionary Fourth Edition defines a gamer as "1-an athlete who is game, 2-one who is highly competitive, steadfast and reliable etc especially in difficult situations 3-a person who plays electronic games."   Do these skills and abilities sound like traits that potential employers would like?   If so, then perhaps you should consider learning to play online games.
        Facebook offers many online games for free.  You invite people from your Facebook family to play with you.  As you progress, you announce to people your status and people will invite you to play with them.  Online games can vary from traditional board games such as chess to new electronic games that mimic reality TV shows.  In some games, you provide "gifts" to your fellow players, ask for favors, challenge them and leave messages.  By participating in online games you can stay in touch with others and build relationships. This is great way to network without focusing on the issue of employment. 
       Playing online games is a fantastic way to relax.  One word of caution, potential employers can check out your Facebook site so you may want to be selective of the games that you choose to play, what you say as well as with whom you choose to associate or make your neighbor in the game. 
       All games require you to have some basic computer skills including keyboarding, saving data, and bookmarking.  Other games require you to create an avatar.  Again, a word of caution should be used when creating the symbolic version of you.  Avoid being overly seductive or violent.
       Have you considered how playing online games could improve your communication skills?  Did you realize that people "Blog" and Tweet about their online game experiences?  By following Blogs and Tweets you can learn common abbreviations that are used when texting.  Common terms are 'UR",  "C" , "OMG",  "LOL",  LMAO" and  IDK.   This is how Gen Xs prefer to communicate.  Being able to communicate with all the generations in the force is a definitely a good skill to possess.
        Games are not restricted to computers but are also on smart  phones, kindles, nooks, Ipads and Ipods. It is my observation that people enjoy discussing their progress and sharing hints in person as well as online.  This means you could use knowledge of an online game as an icebreaker.  You may even use this activity to answer the question "tell me about yourself" during a job interview if you are using an online games in order to help you with a volunteer activity such as being a Big Brother/Big Sister.
           So, do you have game?          
          
          
          

Everywhere you go - There you are!

      As a life and career coach, people frequently come to me with questions regarding their career options but I always start at at same place.  I ask how are things going in their life in general.  Your life consists of 5 sections:  health/well-being, financial, vocational, relationships, leisure and spiritual. 

• Health/well-being: your physical health, stamina, grooming, attire.  
• Financial:       savings, earnings, retirement plan, insurance, investments, taxes, etc
• Vocational:    education, work history, hobbies,
• Relationships: all social interactions including parents, friends, children, significant others, co-workers 
• Leisure:         anything you do for fun
• Spiritual:        your believe and value system

Many people don't realize that an imbalance in any area will impact the others. So, how do you incorporate the various aspects of your life into your job search? 
 Health/well-being:   are you physically able to perform your anticipated job duties,  is your medical information organized so that you can provide it if needed, can you explain any disability for which you are seeking job accommodations, are there work hours that best meet your needs, is your appearance current, should you loose some weight.

• Financial: what is the minimum income that you need, what benefits do you need, can you afford to relocate, what is the going rate for the job that you are seeking
• Relationships: are your family and friends supportive, are you on good terms with at least 3 former co-workers and 3 peers that can serve as references for you.  
• Leisure activities: can be used to demonstrate leadership skills, personal qualities, networking opportunities
• Spiritual activities:  will help you stay focused and motivated with your career transition.  Do you share your spiritual believes with those that are going to be your primary emotional supports during this time?

Take the time, to review how you are doing in these areas.  Consider how your ideal life would be, how would you change your life, what would you leave the same and why would you make these decisions.  Try not to blame problems in your vocational life for problems in other aspects of your life.

For daily job search information Tweet me @CYCWC  and for more information on balancing you life please, contact me at 402.965.1496 or chartingyourcoursewithcoaching@gmail.com. 

Job Inteview 101

      Recently, a friend asked my advice about a job interview.  They were told that it was going to be a 'behavioral interview"  and did not know how to prepare for it.  I am going to share the answer to the question.

     Behavioral interviews and performance interviews are based on the job description and duties of the posted position.  They are designed to determine the best candidate for the position based on the psychological premise that past behavior is the best predictor of future behavior.  Because they are asking about specific, verifiable events, there is also the believe that the respondent will accurately describe their abilities, duties and outcome.  Since they are based on actual job duties, the potential employer reduces the possibility of being accused of bias or not obtaining enough information. 

     All jobs duties have the elements of quantity and quality.  In other words, how often are you expected to do something and how well you do it.  By asking behavioral questions, you are expected to address both issues.  Ideally, you should use an experience from previous employment however you can use any experience that is relevant. Structure your responses using the STAR format.  STAR stands for situation, task, action and results.  

• SITUATION - Answers the questions where did this occur (ie ACME Factory), when (ie., last year, at the annual marketing summit), why (ie potential loss of revenue due to new competition) who (presentation to company president by me).  State the relevance of the project to your company's or department's mission.
• TASK - Describes your assignment and role in the creating the solution to the problem.
• ACTION - What steps did you take to resolve the problem.  Make sure you use action words ie., developed, created, designed, that clearly indicate how you behaved. Include the number of people you supervised, duration of the project, the project budget so that the interviewer has a precise image of your work behavior.
• RESULTS - What was the outcome of your actions (ie., revenues increased by 10%, reached new target market).  If your results were not positive, then demonstrate that you analyzed the outcome and learned from this experience by stating why the plan was not successful and what would you do differently.  Since you are describing a situation in which you were the key player, do not blame someone else for failure because this implies you lack leadership skills and are not a good team player.  This is a good time to mention any award or recognitions that you received for your role in resolving this situation. 

     How should you prepare for this type of interview?  Carefully review the job description and determine the critical elements, (knowledge, skills and abilities) that are needed for the position.   Identify two or three situations for each element.  Consider the corporate culture and personal attributes that you would like to present and select the best examples.  Using the STAR format develop describe each example.  Finally, do mock interviews in order to be able to present yourself in a relaxed, organized manner.

If you would like some assistance with job interviewing skills, please contact me at chartingyourcoursewithcoaching@gmail.com.   

I am my best instructor.

     Say it again - I am my best instructor.  This statement is only true if you can review your experiences objectively and learn from them. 
     By objectively I mean two things.  First you need to recognize and accept what is within your control and what is not. Children think magically and assume that they can magically change things.  Some people play the blame game.  Nothing is ever their fault.  If they don't have a job it is not because they lack job skills but because the economy is bad.   
     Recognizing how you have improved your performance during your job search is a critical skill.  After the interview, you should ask yourself questions like were you prepared for the interview, did you arrive on time, have a copy of your resume, have information on the people you are using for references.  Did you have questions for your interviewer and answer questions in a brief but complete manner?  Did you address the interviewer by name?  Did you get the business cards or names of other people that were present at the interview?  If you could do the day over what would you change?  What would you leave the same?    
       Armed with this information, how are you going to change?  Perhaps, you could do mock interviews?  Can you brainstorm with a friend?  Could you make a check list of things that you should bring? If you believe you didn't answer question satisfactorily perhaps you could reword your answer in your thank you letter?  Perhaps, you could review the interview questions and develop answers. 
       Each experience can make you better but only if you take responsibility for things that are within your control.  But how do you decide if something is within your control?  I  suggest that you make absolute statements.  Since the statement  "Absolutely, no one is being hired." is not true then you know there is something that you can do become hired.  You can also ask people that recently found employment for feedback. 
       So not only are you your best instructor but you are your best student.
    

If your get & go got up & left perhaps you should too!

      How many of these words apply to you?

1. Bored________
2. Exhausted_____
3. Irritated_______
4. Overwhelmed__
5. Underwhelmed_
6. Tired_________
7. Confused______
8. Frustrated_____
9. Angry________
10. Unfulfilled_____

If you checked more than five perhaps you are experiencing burnout in your present job.  According to Websters New World College Dictionary burnout is a "state of emotional exhaustion caused by the stresses of one's work or responsibilities or physical exhaustion, as from dissipation or overwork, and there fatigued, unmotivated, etc."

Does this mean you have a bad attitude, lack work ethic or is something else a factor?    According to About.com (http://stress.about.com/od/burnout/a/mental_burnout.htm) people with Type A personalities and those that tend be perfectionist are more prone to burnout.  These characteristic initially would imply that  you should be a good and desirable worker.  So what went wrong?

Job stress is a major factor in the formation of burnout.  Stress could be the result of working long hours, limited emotional supports, unclear expectations and surviving the proverbial sword of Damocles.  Other less obvious factors that would loss of belief in the mission of the organization, being stonewalled, or the realization that you never liked the job but took it to satisfy other people's expectations.  Being aware of the factors, could help you avoid or minimise the impact of burnout.  Excessive work hours do not allow you the time necessary to recharge your batteries or develop meaningful emotional relationships.  Set limits on your work hours.  Your work expectations should be clearly delineated in your job description.  The personnel department, union representative or supervisor should be able to provide this information.  This information may not be available if your company is undergoing a major reorganization and/or there is a shortage of personnel in key managerial positions.  The lack or consistent management could be fueling your anxiety.  If your company is experiencing financial difficulties and arbitrarily laying people off  then it is easy to believe that your work performance is no longer related to job security.  Having this feeling of impending doom leads to feelings of hopelessness and depression.  Loss of faith in your company could be triggered by realization that one of your core values is being violated or is in conflict with upper management.    

One solution to burnout is to change your job or career.  Many people are reluctant to take this step because of the unstable economy.  However, consider the long term effect that remaining in this environment will have on your health, career and relationship before you decide to remain.  Making this change will take time and careful planning.  If your state of malaise is related to the company's instability, you will need to determine if the entire industry is experiencing a shift.  If it is the industry then perhaps you should explore another career field.  Your local community college could help identify other interest and careers.  If you are just tired of your present position but the industry is relatively stable consider positions in management, training, and qualify assurance.  Your expertise and experience could facilitate this transition. 

Once you make the decision to change, you may feel more energized.  Your work has new meaning because you realize that it is only a means to an end.  Do not linger in your present position any longer than necessary.  Dr Seuss said it best " You have brains in your head.  Your have feet in your shoes.  You can steer yourself any direction you choose.  You're on your own.  And you know what you know.  And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go."

Risk management during career transition

      Heart pounding?  Sweaty palms?  Hyperventilating?  Do you believe these are symptoms of a career transition?  WRONG!   Changing careers should not feel like you are leaping into an abyss.  Yes, there is going to be some stress but it is manageable.
       A clear understanding of the reasons that prompted your decision to change careers is essential.  This information will let you know how quickly you will need to leave your current employer, resources, availability of references and your feelings about the transition.  The latter is extremely important!  Your feelings will impact how you interact with others, approach necessary tasks and ability to recall information.
        Develop a Career Transition Plan, which is a formal strategy listing the steps need to be taken.  These steps should meet the SMART criteria.  They should be specific, measurable, accountable, realistic and time specific.  Federal, state and county employee can consult with their personnel department.  The U. S. Office of Personnel Management offers the Career Transition Assistance Program.  (www.opm.gov/rif/employee_guides/career_transition.asp).   Military personnel can participate in either TAP or DTAP (http://www.turbotap.org/portal/transition/resources/About_Us).  Major corporations that are downsizing  or relocating frequently offer employee assistance programs or outsourcing sources as part of the discharge package.  Determine your entitlement to these benefits by consulting the human resources department and/or union representative.  Depending upon your state unemployment services may provide counselling services that outline the steps to be taken and other supportive services.
     According to Susie Orman, you can be financially responsible and make a midlife career change.  She recommends that your have at 6 months of saving at all times and provides steps on how to make a career transition in her article "Getting Set to Start Over"  (http://www.oprah.com/money/Getting-Set-to-Start-Over).  Consulting with your financial planner, personal banker, investment broker and/or accountant will help you make decisions on the best time to leaving your present position, withdraw money and adjust your financial investments.   
     Purchasing a business or franchise requires due diligence.  Informational interviews, The Occupational Handbook and the Department of Labor can provide industrial information but legal advise is necessary.  Checklists such as the one listed at http://www.findlaw.com/  on "Buying a Business: Due Diligence Checklist" is a good place to start.  Organizations such as SCORE and the U. S. Small Business Administration (http://www.sba.gov/), Success Magazine, or sites such as http://www.entrepreneur.com/ are useful.  Depending on the type of business, consider using an attorney that specializes in e-Commerce Law, Entertainment & Sports, Environmental, Tax, Business or Real Estate/Property Law.
     The financial aid office for institution of higher learning that you are considering can provide assistance.  A Google search will provide a plethora of sites that  promise to help locate funding for this pursuit.  One of these sites is www.collegegrantnews.com/new.php.
      If you need help creating your career transition plan, contact me at 402.965.1496.
 

Getting the job done!

     Like many of you, I participate in professional and civic organizations.  During the last week, I noticed that people were struggling with the same issue.  That issue was delegating tasks.  Several reasons for people not using this skill include a fear that they will be perceived as being lazy and having a poor work ethic; that the task will not be performed properly and finally because they had a bad experience with delegating. 
     There are three tiers in the corporate ladder.  These tiers are technical skills, people skills and finally leadership.  Extensive training is available to acquire technical skills in a safe environment but the acquisition of people skills can only be gained by having experience.  The ability to delegate is a critical people skill.  It requires you to communicate effective, understand the human condition (motivators) and teach.  Learning to delegate is difficult because most people do not know how to do it properly.  Being able to delegate creates a win/win situation on the job which is great for you.  As your work responsibilities increase your ability to manage your time and workload is critical.  Being able to delegate a project that is not critical for you have a "hands on" presence can allow you to work on more critical issues.  It allows you to grew and develop your staff by assigning them new responsibilities.   
      When you ask people, what is the major problem with delegating an assignment?   It is the fear that the task will not be done properly.  People attempt to address this concern by "nagging" or managing by being MIA.  Neither approach is successful and both can be avoided.    
       The clue to proper delegation is in the work itself:
Define your role in the task.  Ask yourself, if your involvement is critical?  Do your superiors perceive your
    role in this task as critical?  If the answer to either question is yes, then do not under any circumstance
    delegate the task.
Evaluate your employees.  Make sure they are ready and willing to assume this task.  Ask yourself, what
   will the successful completion of this task mean to this person?  How will they be perceived by their
   peers?  What are the unwritten expectations if they are not successful?  Do they understand your reasons
  for delegating the task and that you are still involved?
List the desired results and time lines.  By being clear of your expectations and needs, you will be able to
   communicate them to your subordinate. 
Explain the 'environment' to your employee.   They need to know how this task fits into the mission of the
   organization.  This includes the purpose of the project, who will get the results and how the results will be
   used.  Don't be afraid to explain how this task will impact you, the Team as well as the employee
Grant them the authority to make and implement decisions.  Are there financial or other possible restrictions,
   then determine how much authority they will have or a procedure for them to obtain your approval.
Assure the employee that they will have your full support.  If upper management is monitoring this project,
    let them know that their support is available. 
Train the person in areas in which they are not proficient.  Arrange a time and place for the training so that
   the person will have these skills at the appropriate time.
Establish a timeline for regular communication and the format in which progress reports should be made.

In order to learn how to delegate effectively, use it in volunteer activities.  Once you feel comfortable with your skills in this area then implement them in the work place.  If you need help understanding your role, expectations or just letting go, contact me for assistance.

21 must haves for any professional

     Over the years, I have read several "must have" lists.  Sometimes the list didn't make sense but as I proceeded with the activity the need for the item became clear.  I created this list for the professional that wants to ready for a job interview. 

1. Interview suit including a shoes, jewelry, perfume/after shave.
2. Brief case or portfolio 
3. Resume
4. Professional references (at least 3)
5. Personal references (at least 3)
6. Network system or support group for job search
7. Career path or goals with options
8. Resume (corresponding to each career path)
9. Email address that is restricted to job search/professional work
10. Internet presence (ie Facebook and Linkedin)
11. Elevator speech
12. Stationary
13. Personal business cards
14. Cover and thank you letters that can be customized
15. Documentation of formal education, military experience, workshop, etc
16. Documentation of awards and honors
17. Know your skills sets and your limitations
18. Financial considerations (ie salary, health insurance, life insurance, tuition reimbursement, stock options)
19. Non-financial considerations ( ie vacation, work hours, family leave)
20. Knowledge of your industry (ie education requirements, salary, projected growth)
21. Timeline to achieve goals.  

After reviewing this list, let me know if you think there is something that should be changed.

So you want tell

      Last week, we discussed how employers could find out about you and briefly touched on how you disclose information about you without necessarily  knowing.  This is based on the concept of blind spots.  Imagine being a rectangular window that consists of four panes.  Each pane is different.  One is clear, two are blurry and provide a distorted image and the finally one is completely opaque.  This is because there are things that only you know about yourself, while most things both you and others know about you and there are somethings that no one knows. There is an old saying "If two people know something, then it is not a secret."  In the case of a job search, only the information that you alone know can you control being disclosed, everything else has to be managed.
     Confused?  Let's consider situations that fall in each category.  If you are unemployed, you and your previous employer will know the reasons for the discharge.  This is a clear pane.  Your co-workers may know or believe they know the reasons for your departure.  This is a blurry pane.   Suppose your employer needed to downsize and decided to discharge you.  You may never know all the reasons for their decision.  Again, this is a blurry pane.  If you decided to quit your job, only you know the reasons for that decision.  This is a clear pane.  Finally, you come to work and the doors are locked.  This is an opaque pane because you and others don't know the reasons for this action.  
       How do you get information about yourself?  Reviewing your personal journals are great sources of information and insight.  Tracking your activities over the course of a week or a month can provide you with some insights.  For example, if you log your activities at 30 minute intervals for a week, you will have a good idea on your activities and productivity.   Friends, family, and co-workers can provide some information.  Performance appraisals are sources of information from your supervisors.  Ask questions, on  how to improve your work performance and request information regarding your career ladder from your supervisor during your appraisal.   Perhaps you requested training or being assigned to a special project and your request was denied.  This presents an opportunity for you to ask for feedback from your supervisor.  Every so often, employees have the opportunity to participate in a '360' assessment.  This is a terrific way to gain some insights.  Things that are unknown to both you and other should be left alone while you pursue your goals.
     Comparing yourself with peers can let you know if you are on track or if there are gaps in your life.  This comparison can be tricky if your career path resulted in transversing a social class or if your are in an unique career.
      Disclosing information about yourself during the job interview requires skill.  The employer's questions are designed to get information about you, your skills and ability work in their environment.  Your goal is present yourself in a positive manner.  Disclosing negative information should not be done unless it is absolutely unavoidable.  This is usually when they ask a specific question ie have you ever been convicted of a felony.  You need to develop ways to minimize the impact of this information.  If you are friends with people that routinely do hiring then role play answering the question.  Your representative at Workforce should be able to provide suggestions.  There are job hunt clubs that specialize according to industry and clientele.  Find one that works with your issue and participate. 
     So if your believe you must tell,  take 5.  Make sure it is absolutely necessary to disclose.  Have your facts.  Make sure it is absolutely necessary to disclose.  Be absolutely certain that must disclose.  Present the information in a positive manner and move on.         

Is age a factor in your job search?

     Recently, I have heard several people complain that their age is a factor in their ability to obtain employment, climb the cooperate ladder or relate to their co-workers.  The usual retort is "you are only as old as you feel' or "age is just a number" however, these statements don't make you feel better.  An article in the The Huffington Post (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ dated 12-22-10) listed 21 obsolete items which included VCRs, Dial up Internet, CDs, landlines phones, and fax machines.  As a baby boomer, we remember when these items were the state of the art.  However, there are things that are now obsolete that will impact your job search. 
      Consider, your job search.  In the old days, everyone checked the classified ads in the Sunday paper.  Today, you go to craigslist, or the company's online job board.  You don't mail or fax your resume  but complete one online or email it to potential employers.  Researching potential employers required the use of the telephone book, encyclopedias, directories, and catalogs.  Today, a Google search can provide a wealth of information.  You could also do a blog search and  consult Face book.
       The intangible qualities (ie being organized, responsible) that everyone promoted and office skills (ie typing and the ability to use office equipment such as the  fax or copier) were standard questions.  These skills are obsolete.  Time management is automated because your smart phone has a calendar function that can integrate both your personal and business activities and provide you with reminders.  No reason to request directions to the office for the interview because you can rely on the negation function on your phone.  Your knowledge of Microsoft Office (Word, Power Point and Excel) are the skills of today.  So how do you disclose your age on your resume or in your cover letter?

1. Did you type or hand write it?  These are both No Nos! Please take a course at the local community college or State employment office to learn how to use a computer.
2. Did you mention any of the afore mentioned obsolete items ie fax machine?  
3. Check your spelling and vocabulary?  Terms, phrases, spelling have changed.  Are you using terminology that is obsolete or unique to your previous employer?  If you need help, ask a young person to proofread your letter and resume.  If they don't understand a term or phrase, most likely your interviewer will not either.
4.  Addresses:  Companies like people move.  Are you using an address, phone number or email address that is dated and no longer valid?  Take the time to confirm this information.  If the site you worked at is now closed ask them how should it be listed. 
5. Phone numbers and email address:  Your employer may not have physically moved but they might have relocated in cyber space.  Include the area code and check the number.  You may want to include the extension rather than have someone have to travel the menu tree.  Get the email address of previous employers.  
6. Position titles:  positions could be consolidated or renamed.  Should someone contact a previous employer, the new HR person might not be familiar with the title you held.  Ask them would is the current title and use it or explain the position in your cover letter. 

Thank you letters are not obsolete however, please email their thank you notes.  Don't waste time writing a letter.  Post your response immediately.  Remember to ask for the interviewer's business card so that you can have the correct address. 

Do you just disclose or do you titilate?

     No, we are not going to plan a hot night out!  We are discussing your cover letter.  Surprised?    Shocked?  Confused?  A cover letter is a personalized statement to a recruiter about your abilities that is designed to get an interview.   In a way, it is like flirting.  Your stationary and resume could be compared to your attire but your cover letter is like making eye contact.
     You make eye contact and smile before approaching someone.  Your cover letter needs to convey this.  It needs to indicate that you are desirable and  approachable. So, what should you put in your cover letter?  Start with the posting.  Read it several times and check for the name of the person to contact, buzz words and job requirements.  You may want to dissect the posting in order to answer the questions: who, what, when, where, why, and how.

• Who 
• who posted the job
• who are their clients
• who are they hiring (ie., job title)
• What
• what are the job duties
• what are the hours 
• what the characteristics of the person they want
• what are educational requirements
• what type of work experience are they seeking
• When
• when do they want the person to start working
• when are they going to interview
• when will they stop accepting applications
• Where
• where is the job
• where do you submit your application 
• Why
• why do they need to fill this position (ie.,relocating, expansion) 
• How
• are you to respond to the posting (ie., physically bring it, mail it or fax it)
• are you going to perform the job (ie., computer skills, language skills)  

     The answers to these questions are in the advertisement.  If you are not certain, then investigate the company.  Note, if the ad does not provide the name of the company, you may want reconsider the validity of this posting.  Companies have been know to advertise positions to find out who is looking for another job and/or to establish an applicant pool.  Use their buzz words and clearly indicate that you have the desired skills.  Your closing should be either a call to action or let them know that you will be contacting them.  Remember to thank them for their time and consideration.  Keep the cover letter to one page.

Take a Break!

     Take a break before you proofread it.  Compare what you wrote and with the advertisement.   Check your spelling, grammar and the reading level.  Now, do print preview.  Remember, how I compared the letter to making the initial eye contact and smile.  You would never want a piece of broccoli stuck in your teeth so you check yourself.  The same principle applies here. How does the letter line up on the paper?  Do you need to adjust the margins?  Is it in block format?  Did you use abbreviations?  Now print.  The envelop should be printed also. 

Take a Break!

     Take one last look.  Perhaps, you should have someone else read it.  Does the letter give the impression that you are the right person for the job?  Does the employer know how to reach you? 

     Keep a copy of your records.  Be certain to make the follow-up call, if you stated that you would be calling.

     Still not certain how to write a cover letter or would like someone to review your letters, please call me for a free consultation.  My number is 402.965.1496.

How did they know that?

You have been on job interviews and they seem really interested in you but you don't get the offer. Ask yourself why?  There could be a number reasons that you don't get an offer.  Perhaps, they found a better candidate or they cancelled the position or did they find something in your background? 

You need to be very proactive when addressing information that potential employers could obtain.  First, what are your references, former employers and co-workers saying about you.  Secondly what is on the Internet about you.  Third, what does your credit rating say.  Finally, address the negativity.

Always contact your references so that they know who will be calling and inform them about the position being sought.  Determine if there is number and/or time that would be more suitable for them to be contacted.  Remember, if your reference does not seem professional the value of their endorsement will be reduced.  Remind them of situations that they can use to emphasize your character.  Confirm the contact number for previous employers and verify the type of information that they will provide.  Most HR departments will only confirm dates and positions held at a company.  This will not support your claims of being an outstanding employee so be able to document any statements you make to your potential employer about yourself.  Offer to provide this documentation when you do your thank you letter.  Be prepared to demonstrate your work history with awards, newspaper announcements, performance appraisals even tax statements (ie documenting bonuses)  but have documentation. There is an old saying "put your money where your mouth is"   If your credit rating is poor, your may not qualify for certain positions.  Address this issue by telling the potential employers the truth, your credit rating is at an all time low, due to your prolonged unemployment or illness and that you are working with your creditors to correct this situation.  You want the employer to know that you are a financially responsible individual.  "Keep your friends close but your enemies closer.' - if you had co-worker(s) that do not fall in the 'friend' category, you may want to know where they are currently working because they could be a source of negative information about you. Don't assume the supervisor or HR asked them for a reference because some haters just love to sling mud and will volunteer their opinion without solicitation.  Do everything possible to resolve your issues prior to the interview.  If this isn't possible then perhaps you might consider not working at that company. If you are a social butterfly, clean up your site(s), voice mail, and ask your friends to help you.  If there is something truly horrible about you on the Internet and you believe that it will be uncovered then you need to acknowledge it, confirm the validity of it, and notify potential employers of any legal action that you might be taking to correct the situation ie you were the victim of identity theft.  In the worst case scenario, blame it on the stupidity of being young but never blame your "friends" alcohol or drugs for poor judgement because this will say more about you than any picture.  Make sure that the interviewer knows that you have matured and you will enhance the company's image.

If you are positive that none these issues were factors, then request a post interview.  This should be done by your career coach or counselor from employment services not you.  The goal of this interview is to learn how to present yourself better for your next job interview.

If you would like help with your job seeking skills or need someone to make a post interview call for your, please call me for a free consultation.    

And the question is ...

To be or not to be unemployed, that is the question.  Whether it is better to suffer the pitiful stares of friends and family or to take arms against the sea of questions regarding your source of income?  Hamlet was mourning the loss of his father and his identity (son) while the loss of employment represents the loss of income and the identity.  This identity includes income provider, head of household, job title, and possibly a career.  Like Hamlet you are facing a dilemma because you are processing grief.  The question that needs to be answered is - Do you disclose your work situation or not?

Disclosure is the best way to cope with the natural desire to deny being unemployed.  Grief has four stages: denial, anger, negotiation and acceptance.  Each stage is transversed in sequence and can be revisited if emotional prompts are present.  Control when, where and to whom you make initial disclosures.  You need to be open and honest with your family, close friends, financial advisers and most importantly yourself about your situation.  This honesty will help you stay focused and ask questions about benefits, severance packages and gain financial/emotional support during this difficult time.  Given the current economy, most people understand your situation and will be supportive.  This does not mean that there won’t be “slings and arrows of outrageous fortune” from concerned family members or friends but the best way to handle them is with a good offense.  You know these people so anticipate their questions and reactions. 

Anger can be directed at others or yourself.  Consider feelings of agitation, discomfort, jealousy, and annoyance when people attempt to provide assistance or advise as indicators that you are in the anger stage.  You might manifest your anger by yelling, screaming, or crying.  Being part of a support group could help ventilate feelings without the emotional fallout.  Many job clubs and state employment offices offer this type of assistance.  The opportunity to vent frustration about your job search and feelings of betrayal by your previous employer is a form of disclosure which could help avoid being overtaken by your negative emotions or engaging in self-destructive behavior.

Hamlet’s soliloquy is an eloquent examinable on how stressful negotiating with oneself can be.  Attempts to define who you are and where you are going will result in many, many hours or debate with yourself.  Monitoring how you talk to yourself during this process is critical to your success.  Why?  The phenomena of self fulfilling prophesy is at work.  If you keep saying “I am unemployed.” you will stay unemployed.  You have a job!  Your job is to discover new options for yourself.  You job is to redefine yourself.  Your job is to explore alternative careers.  Your job is to explore new life styles.  Your job is on hold, while you take a ‘sabbatical’. You job is to preserve your heritage, by caring for an elderly relative.  Your job is to be a role model for your children.  There are many ways in which you define your current life style without focusing on the negative.  There are 5 other aspects to your life which should provide the positive energy to maintain the infrastructure necessary for your life to maintain its shape. 

Accepting your situation does not mean the death of your problems.  There will always be issues in life.  The trick is maintaining the integrity of your infrastructure.  Know your core values, establish and pursue goals, routinely reassess your situation and consider alternatives and look at other parts of your life for inspiration.

The major aspects of your life are: Professional, Financial, Health/Wellness, Spiritual, Emotional and Relationships.  Life coaching could help you understand the relationship between these areas, clarify your values, establish and track your progress towards your goals.  Contact me at 402.965.1496

Staying Positive While Changing Careers

       A very useful tool, to stay motivated while changing careers is to read biographies of successful people.  “Miracles Happen” by Mary Kay Ash describes her life and the issues she had to address in order to launch Mary Kay Cosmetics.  She faced discrimination and her share of family drama.  However, rather than becoming complacent or despondent, she made a decision to be somebody.  “Miracles Happen” is full of vignettes that stress the importance of faith in you, a kind word, networking and servant leadership.  Mary Kay Ash is a terrific example on how to reinvent youself. 

      So how did, Mary Kay Ash reinvent herself?  First, she had to be honest with herself.  This means she had to critically assess her situation and recognize both the good and bad.  She had to identify what works and what was a waste of resources.  Secondly, she set priorities and developed a plan.  Third, she worked long and hard on her plan while being enthusiastic.  Does this sound overwhelming?  Complicated?    Exhausting?  You are absolutely right! 

       Mary Kay Ash lived by simple rules that anyone can adopt.  Her priorities were clear – first God, then family and then career.  She lived her motto which is the Golden Rule, or treat others as you would like to be treated.  She surrounded herself with positive, supportive people that shared her values and work ethic.  She was not afraid to ask for help.  She kept her word.  She had a vision and broke into smaller achievable steps and she celebrated these achievements.   None of these concepts are novel but they are very easy to break when things get difficult. 

     One of the primary reasons, she established Mary Kay Ash Cosmetics was to empower women while they balanced work, family and civic obligations.   Yes, she recognized the need to make sacrifices at times however, it was imperative to maintain balance in your life.   This takes insight and discipline.  Is your life in balance?  Do you know what your values and priorities are?  Do you have a clear vision of what you want to accomplish?  If you answered no to any of these questions, then you should consider obtaining life or career transition coaching.  Call me at 402.965.1496 for a complimentary session.   

Networking during the holidays.

The holidays present terrific opportunities for you to network.  You have a built in excuse to contact former employers, co-workers, classmates, military buddies and extended family.  However, have you considered how religious and cultural events could help you expand your network?

      From November to February there are a plethora of cultural and religious activities that are sponsored by colleges, museums, religious and civic organizations not to mention bookstores, grocery stores and wine galleries that are designed to enlighten the public.  The costs of these events are usually free or minimal.  By attending events that are not reflective of your heritage, you increase your chances of meeting someone that you don’t know as well as demonstrating your ability to function in the global market.  The newspaper and library will have information about public events for Chanukah, Christmas, Kwanzaa, and Feast of the Three Kings, Ramadan and Chinese New Year.  Your goal should be to attend at least one event every day.

      So how can you take advantage of these networking opportunities?  Holiday networking is like speed dating.  Prepare for these events, by learning a little about the sponsoring organization, identify key people that should be in attendance that you want to meet and learn the purpose of the celebration.  This information will also help you determine how you should dress.  Have 5 to 10 questions designed to keep the conversation light, interesting and moving.  If possible, practice using your questions so that you will feel comfortable.  You can chat up people in the buffet line and during intermissions.  Knowing a few key phrases in the language that will be used will impress people.  Just like in speed dating, you are only making the initial contact and will follow-up with an actual date.

    Focus on your potential “date” by listening attentively.  Ask questions about them, their reason for attending and the role their company plays in these events.  Do not linger with one person; because they came to have fun and you came to meet people.  Before you end the conversation, exchange business cards and let the person know that you would like to talk with them again.

     Personal business cards should be no more than four lines.  The purpose of the card is for your contact to remember you and reach you.  If you plan to introduce yourself as Bob then list that name rather than Robert on the card.  Do not assume the person will make the connection because they might have been drinking or focused on other issues while you spoke.  Your phone number and email should be listed.  Credentials can be tactfully included i.e. Bob Smith, BSW.  Jot notes about the person/event on the back of their card.  You can also do this on the back of blank cards.  Invest in a nice card case and pen in order to make a professional impression. 

     Just like in dating, the sooner you make that follow-up call the more likely the other person will consider you a serious contender.  Remind them who you are and where you met before asking for an appointment.   You are requesting an informational interview in order to get to know their company better.  Expecting a job interview is akin to expecting a marriage proposal after the first date, so go slow.

     As a life coach, I encourage people to balance all aspects of their life.  Networking during the holidays should not take you away from your family.  Many activities are designed for families with children, so feel free to make this a family event but make sure your children are a positive reflection of you.  They should be well behaved and not ill.  Relax and have fun but getting intoxicated is a definite no-no.  For obvious reasons, avoid eating foods that are dripping sauce, could affect your breath or stick in your teeth.  Times are hard but be prepared to make a donation.  Ask for a receipt for your taxes, this will put you on their mailing list as well as give you a deduction.  One thing, that all of these religious and cultural events have in common, is  the concept of gratitude and hope for the future; I want to encourage you to embrace this positive energy.  If you want more information or would like help preparing for holiday networking call or email me.