Do you watch reality TV?

     There is a reality TV show called "Downsized".  I have never watched an episode only the commercials.  The concept is to observe how a large family (more than 4 kids) make ends meet while the parents are either not working or under-employed. I am not a big fan of reality TV, sitcoms or programs that "address" social or family issues.  This includes watching political candidates and financial wiz-bangs discuss the economy.  Yes, there is a school of thought that says these shows are educational because they present coping skills, possible solutions, reduce the feeling of being in an unique situation and are politically informative.  I strongly disagree!
      First, life's problems can not be solved in 30 minutes.  Secondly, my spouse, kids, dog, co-workers and neighbors are not as insightful, forgiving, open minded, forgetful, or as caring as the people on the sitcoms.  Finally, when I am in a crisis, I seldom view my  problems as fodder for jokes.

      In the books  "The Secret"  by Rhonda Byrne and "The Law of Attraction" by Abraham and Hicks, the authors describe how our thoughts affect our lives.  Even the Bible states that our thoughts predict how we will behave.  It is my opinion, that filling your mind with subtle negative messages (ie there are no jobs, you have to accept less than a satisfactory position, these are desperate times)  that are conveyed in these programs your ability to participate manage your career will be significantly compromised.  Staying motivated is key to a fulfilling career.  These messages will not help you.
    Should you avoid watching the news or reading the paper and assume a Pollyanna approach to life?  By no means would I advocate that life style. You need to be aware of developments in your community and career field, so that you can anticipate changes and opportunities.  However, just like your diet, you need to monitor both the amount of "negative" calories you are consuming and exercise (positive/supportive activity) you are performing in order to maintain a healthy life style. What are some steps you can take to maintain a positive attitude?

1.  Limit the amount of time you spend observing shows, reading articles or discussing the negative economy.  More than 60 minutes per day in this pursuit will become an emotional drain.
2. Avoid engaging in conversation with people that have a defeatist attitude. 
3. Avoid seeking advise from people that are extremely critical.  They can point out your deficits but seldom have suggestions on how to play up your strengths, remove or minimize a weakness nor do they notice any positive changes that you make. 
4. Use a technique developed by Mary Kay Ashe, founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics, say "Cancel, cancel, cancel" to yourself immediately after a negative thought crosses your mind.
5. Make a list of your strengths/accomplishments and review it daily.
6. Before going to bed, make a "Daily To Do" list of at least 5 actions that you will take the next day to promote yourself.
7. Become involved in organizations and job hunt clubs that have an investment in your success ie many schools/training programs get a "bonus" when they report a graduate has secured suitable employment. 
8. Read biographies of highly successful people.
9. Network - have a conversation (not tweet, text, email) but actually talk with someone that is achieving their goals.  People convey energy in their voice and facial expression. Aim to talk with 30 people in 30 days.   
10. Envision your future.  Have a clear image in your mind on how you will look, act and live when you achieve your goal.  Remind yourself of this image every day. 

If you need help with any of these ideas or if you would like some more suggestions, please contact me.